People with high esteem are at peace, relaxed and are assertive. They live in balance nourishing their bodies and try to improve their behaviour constantly. People with high self-esteem act independently, and are usually called self-actualized. When our self-esteem is low we become negative, aggressive, destructive and powerless. All this has an impact not only our happiness but also on our work and relationships.
Here are self-esteem tips to motivate you to prioritize your needs and develop your potential for happiness and success. It does not matter if your self-esteem is too low or you are going through a bad moment:
1. Use affirmations: self-esteem affirmations are positive statements you can say to empower you. They are important in the process for building your self-esteem and a good habit to implement in your life.
2. Stop comparing with others: this is a low self-esteem Sign and a bad habit. Stop saying : I wish I could ride his car, you always look perfect and look at me, you are so thing, I will never lose weight, I am not enough and so on.
3. Don’t confuse self-esteem with arrogance. Remember that arrogance is an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner.
4. Set goals and write your life dreams. It is your birthright to fulfill your desires and to do this you need to be clear inside. You are important and deserve to have bright and wonderful future. Get clear about what you want and feel deserving of it.
5. Identify your fears and confront them. See yourself overcoming your fears because it will make you more confident.
6. Know your strengths and weakness and when is time to ask for help.
7. Optimism is the key. Avoid telling all day everybody how difficult is your life. Stay in a positive state. If things are not going the way you would like them to be, do something about it. This is not denial, but the awareness that you are in the process to change. During this process it is important that you remain as optimistic as you can.
8. Overcome jealousy. Deal with your feelings and the person concerned. Take responsibility and express your feelings. This will help you to earn respect from others.
9. Learn to say no when is necessary. Practice assertiveness. Stand up for yourself and be proud.
10. Release negative emotions: As soon as they came out, if it is possible, release them. Use any technique you like or visit a professional or counsellor. Remember if you find yourself angry, sad, and anxious or whatever negative emotion you are experiencing, stop and take action. You will feel better.
11. Nourish your relationships. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Instead of saying something that you will regret, stop and come back to the conversation when your emotional turbulence is gone. If you have children, spend time with them. If you are married make your marriage work by avoiding routine. Go out with your husband/wife once a week for a great dinner or just to have a coffee. Join a hobby together. Never let your wife or husband be taken for granted. Send them a card, by a flower, a chocolate, a love note. Keep it alive. Self-esteem is important to maintain nurturing relationships.
12. Take care of your body: exercise is not enough; you have to eat healthy foods, drink a lot of water, and have an annual check-up with your doctor.
13. Surround with positive and supportive people. Let go of any person that is trying to pull you down.
14. Forgive yourself: let go of guilt and regret. If you did something wrong don’t dwell on that. Learn from your mistakes. Use your regret and guilt to become a better person.
15. Overcome denial: sometimes there are behaviours or situations that are too painful and as a defense mechanism we have a tendency to go into denial. Talk to a friend about what you feel, look for help or a professional.
16. Practice self-acceptance : Accept what you can’t change and also what you can change. Accept your imperfections and improve what is changeable.
17. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make them, just learn from what you did wrong and move on.
18. Let go of your emotional wounds: Sometimes past experiences left wounds inside ourselves. Be aware of what is triggering those wounds and release them. May be when you were a child somebody made fun of you in front of your friends. So now as an adult you feel shame and you are not sure were that shame comes from. Pay attention now in the present what triggers shame and go to the past to find wound and release it.
19. Worrying about the future will only create depression and sadness. The only moment you have is now. With the now you are creating your future. It is important that you live in the present moment.
20. Take responsibility for the events that are happening. Stop blaming others and your circumstances.
Trust yourself and know that you can cope with the challenges in your life. Also know that you are worthy of happiness success and fulfilment.
Each step will help you building self-esteem. Be patient and kind with your life.